Who's your favorite?

We never want to pick favorites among our children, but it can be hard sometimes. Even if you don't show preferential treatment, their behaviors can definitely endear one to you over the other.  This is especially true when you have to boys and one is four years old and one is two.

My wife is really struggling with this right now as Caveboy (4) is very sweet and helpful much of the time. Of course he has his tantrums from time to time, but Cavebaby (2) is a challenge on a whole different level.  We didn't really believe the terrible twos were a real thing when Caveboy was two.  Maybe this was because our attention we focused on keeping the new baby alive, but I think that he may have been less of a challenge.

He was definitely a more polite nurser.  Also my wife was working less, and not in graduate school at the time.  Now when she sees Cavebaby its at night, when he won't sleep, or when he is battling for control of the other nipple so that he can twiddle it like he's spinning a dreidel.

For the most part I have been more immune to these issues as it isn't my nipples getting ripped off, nor am I the one trying to squeeze in some studying after bedtime.  Also I may be more predisposed to enjoy how "spirited" he is.  I put that in quotes because Cavemom might describe him as "a little shit" once in awhile.

Of course we love our Cavebaby and we both do thoroughly enjoy what a unique soul he is turning out to be, but even I am not entirely immune to having a favorite momentarily.


It can be difficult, however, when one child is writing on the couch with marker...

The work of Cavebaby

...and the other is doing the dishes. 

Cavemom's favorite* (For now)

Also if you need to clean marker off your faux suede couch, isopropyl alcohol works great.  Don't use the soap that comes with the couch first.  That will just leave weird stains on the couch.